Are you doing a job that you love so much that you would work for free?
Sometimes it’s hard for us to realize our value and to attach a price tag to the service we provide to others, simply because we either love doing it or we don’t feel qualified enough. We have thoughts like “there are probably a hundred other people doing the same thing … so what makes me different?” This can be harder for women, who generally receive less than men in terms of salary and tend to not be given high positions in companies … which can make us feel that we are never doing enough or being enough.
Well, I’m here to tell you that you are enough … even more than enough and that the good you are doing in the world is actually worth a lot! We need to take back our power and value ourselves for all that we are worth!
It starts with self respect and self love … towards all that you are and all that you have the power to be.
We need to dig in deep and empower ourselves in the words we say to ourselves, and how we are reacting to situations around us. Are we passive or assertive? Are we standing up for ourselves and all that we can become … or are we being taken advantage of?
I grew up serving in my church and was always a volunteer doing something … whether it was watching kids, worshipping on stage or helping in the kitchen and bringing healthy snacks on Sundays. When I entered university, I was up to my knees in volunteer work, including being in a Vice-President role that felt like another part-time job on top of the one I already had AND being a full time student.
Sometimes we need to have our volunteer experiences to grow and evolve in our skills and abilities. I’m not saying that volunteer work needs to stop when you discover your value and purpose, but I am suggesting that there is a point where being a volunteer can leave you feeling exhausted, unappreciated and unsupported.
We need to recognize this breaking point but also make volunteering and serving a part of our daily lives in order to find our voice, our passion and our power.
I volunteered for a while and played the harp at special events at my church and retirement homes until I felt comfortable enough to start playing at weddings, yoga classes and at bigger events. Now, with more experience and skill, I set the price for my services … and that has been both a humbling and exciting experience and makes me feel even more grateful and appreciated when I get to play for others!
Soooo …. How do you know when it’s time to start valuing yourself? How can you ignite your unique, assertive and passionate fire?
Here are a few tips to awaken yourself to the power and value within:
Your time and energy are expended to the max.
If you feel resentful and are spreading yourself too thin … chances are that you are. Claim your power and be assertive in setting prices for your services outside of volunteering. When it isn’t an act from your heart, it is no longer volunteering or serving. Make your work rewarding and feel satisfied at the end of a busy day in order to live out your best self.
Your skills are up to par with professionals.
Take notice of your skills and how you have evolved along the way. Are you no longer at an intermediate level? Do you feel able to teach and inspire others with the knowledge you have accumulated? Be honest with yourself in your unique skills and understand your niche in your field.
Others come to you for expertise.
Do others come to you with questions related to your hobby? Do they ask for advice or guidance about a certain topic that you know a little too much about? Start to listen to the feedback from others and what they tell you. They may be the ones showing you your next career in your life that you are passionate about and that makes you come alive!
You are certified and have experience [more importantly].
Did you take an online course? Or a weekend immersive workshop to get certified in something? That’s the first step to attaining the knowledge you need to shine. When you start to volunteer and get experience, that’s when you can do your trial and error runs, and learn what works and what doesn’t, which can add so much value to you!
Learn to say no, and learn to say yes.
Valuing yourself starts with tuning in to what you want and what you don’t. When others ask too much from you … learn when to say no. However, when opportunities come your way don’t be afraid to say YES to the right ones and be grateful that others are taking notice of your value! Listen to your intuition … it will guide you to value and purpose!
So take back your power in situations when you feel used and when your value is not being recognized. We have to be kind to ourselves before we can be kind to others … and it starts with being honest about our situation, our resources and our knowledge.
Peace & Love,
Jill – your veggie villager xx
Please comment below about how you have gained back your power and valued your beauty and light within!
Now that all the craziness has settled and I have officially FINISHED my undergraduate degree, it’s time to walk into a new phase of my life. A phase of uncertainty, a phase that involves me making up the rules and routines, and for me deciding where my lifelong learning journey will take me.
I feel a calling to be a nomad, and to travel and learn from other cultures in the hopes of finding answers on my purpose path. But with this calling, I must get out of my comfort zone and my head. I booked a one-way ticket to Peru last night and it was both LIBERATING and TERRIFYING.
I could get caught up in my fear of the unknown, the insecurity of being in a foreign country, OR I could trust in the journey and in my intuition and guidance by God.
Am I being brave or courageous?
Bravery is the absence of fear … of throwing yourself into situations and not having an ounce of apprehension.
Courage has the presence of fear, but it is being able to move past the fear and still throwing yourself into a situation on mere trust and adrenaline.
I feel I am in tune with my path and am drawn to Peru out of the new learning opportunities about spirituality and healing that it will bring, as well as the people and connections I will discover along the way.
I also know that I want to continue my exploration, and discover how to help and heal others … and feel that yoga and Ayurveda will definitely play a role in that.
So how did I build up my courage? How did I go from being a ball of nerves to a calm, and trusting person who has some direction but has learned to go with the flow?
Here are some of my tips on how to build up your courage in new situations to get out of your head and into your heart:
Reflect on your past to move forward to your future.
Learning to deal with your past takes a whole lot of courage but can give you insight into what fears you have and how they are driving your current behaviours. Do you have a fear of losing someone? Why? Your fears can reveal your hopes and dreams. You fear loss because you crave connection. Tap into your fears and past beliefs, in order to understand your hopes and dreams for your future.
Be proactive, not reactive.
Recognize your feelings when they arise and identify them. Being self-aware in understanding that you feel upset, and learning to stop and breathe before you speak. Why are you upset? What is the root cause of that feeling and how should you move forward in addressing the feeling? I bet not exploding on your loved one or becoming impulsive in your behaviour is going to do the trick.
Live out your purpose … even if change is required.
Truly understand what your gifts are and why you were put on this earth. What makes you feel alive? What could you do for hours (being in your flow state) that you are good at? Is it public speaking? Counselling others? Making calculations? How are you contributing to the world now and how does that align with your purpose and gifts? If it doesn’t … make the change required. You will be happier and feel more fulfilled … we were given one life … let’s live out our truth and find joy, purpose and peace in each breath and day given to us.
4. Prayer and meditation can give you superpowers.
Being aligned with the universe and God’s plans for us can be super powerful in allowing the right opportunities to come into our lives at just the right times. Being mindful of God throughout your day through prayer is a great way to stay connected with power and energy. Meditating on compassion, abundance, truth and seeking out goodness and truth is a way to feel empowered and give you the courage to make decisions without fear and anxiety that are intentional and God-filled.
Rest in the unknown and learn to embrace it.
Most of us fear the unknown … especially death. But we can also learn to embrace and marvel at the plans God has for us. Being reassured that there are plans that we just can’t see, and that we take a windy and uncertain road to reveal them, is an exciting and encouraging idea! We can have a positive and opened heart and attitude towards the future, instead of viewing it as something scary, and embrace whatever comes our way. We can step into opportunities and situations with courage knowing and trusting that God’s got this.
So I encourage you to build up your courage through deepening your spiritual practices, reflecting on how you react to your emotions, and having an open and positive mindset when change is coming your way.
I can’t wait to grow and see what Peru has in store for me … and whatever comes next will be both beautiful and serendipitous.
Jill – your veggie villager xx
Comment below and let me know how you are stepping into courage and out of fear in this season of your life!!
This post is really hard for me to write and has taken me several months to think about and formulate with the right awareness and intention. Although, I did write this post in a couple of hours, I feel like I am finally floating on this sea of emotions, rather than sinking. I want to be real and honest about my eating disorder journey with you, but that requires a lot of courage, strength and introspection on my part.
I feel compelled to share my story to fully identify and articulate what actually happened throughout my health journey, as well as give you a story that inspires, encourages and hopefully gives you the tools you need to heal yourself. I have had so many realizations along the way that have evolved me into the person I am today.
I am still in the healing process, although I feel I am very close to reaching my ultimate health. I didn’t know what health really meant until I became obsessed with it to the point of turning into an anxious and sick person and had to apply the knowledge I had to heal. Only did becoming mindful and using yoga was I able to completely heal my destructive habits and become grounded in self-love.
So … Here’s the whole story.
My Journey from Fit to Sick
It all began in Grade 11 when I discovered Jillian Michaels boot camps and how good greens made me feel. My mom had decided to start exercising at home as part of her 100-pound weight loss journey, and I decided to jump on that bus. I hated to exercise at this point, and was addicted to sugar-filled foods like Arizona green tea and peanut M&Ms.
The high-achiever in me got bored of her basic exercise videos and found the hard-ass workouts of Jillian Michaels challenging and satisfying. I did her videos about five times a week, and started to eat a healthy vegetarian diet, with more salads and less sugar.
At this time, I was having mild breakouts and went on birth control to help the cause. Little did I know what this meant for the future of my periods. As I started to educate myself more on health through documentaries, health podcasts and blogs, I realized I had found my passion. But the perfectionist and curious soul in me of course wanted to take my health to the next level … and so I took on the challenge of becoming a vegan.
I was hardcore vegan for about two years, and during that time, I tried many different types of vegan diets – the fruitarian, the high carb, no fat diet, the juice cleansing … and during this whole process I went off birth control as I learned all about the negative effects of it.
Well, I had no period for two years after that.
And during this whole time, I learned how to have incredible self-control and discipline. I had an exercise routine, I had a strict diet and I had a plan to feel good. But somehow, focusing on my physical health made every aspect of my health suffer.
My physical health didn’t really improve, in fact, it got worse. I developed an obsession with every meal I would have, and started to feel anxious when it came time to eat. I was nutrient deficient through the insane blood sugar spikes I had and started to eat huge amounts of food, in secret of course.
I loved to bake, and would bake a whole tray of vegan, gluten-free, refined-sugar free muffins, snap a pic for my blog, then eat the whole tray and think that I was fine and eating a healthy diet. But I felt guilty, bloated, ashamed and sick. However, my anxiety was gone when I finished my binge. And I could exercise it off to keep at a steady weight.
And so the pattern continued.
I became obsessed about my diet to the point where I isolated myself, and would keep myself so busy to the point where I lived in a chronic state of stress. I would have my extra-curriculars, my schoolwork, my harp lessons, and work to fill my time so I could stop thinking about food and my parent’s shaking relationship.
My first few years of university I decided to major in business because I wanted to start my own health business as I thought I had all the health information I needed. I worked at a smoothie bar and vegan restaurant. I was golden.
Until I started to hate my classes, hate the cutthroat vibe of my program and knew I wasn’t living out my truth.
I broke in my second semester of my first year, and was miserable, nutrient deficient and full of stress as I pushed away the people I loved. I remember sobbing in my harp lesson with a teacher that didn’t know how to help and thought that the circle of fifths was my biggest problem. But I knew.
I knew I needed to change my major and travel to re-discover who I was and where I belonged.
My mom also started to notice that my ‘healthy’ and restrictive vegan diet wasn’t working for me when I ate a whole pot of brown rice she had cooked for me for dinner. And so she asked how I felt about going back to my vegetarian ways. But at that point, I had been brainwashed by other fruitarians and vegans to think that eggs and dairy were bad and not healthful. But she said maybe my skin would improve, and as it was getting worse, I felt weak and tired and continued to not have a period.
I remember the day when I agreed to her caring suggestion and she bought some free-range organic eggs per my orthorexic request. I remember her handing me my veggie omelet she made with love, and a side of salsa and avo, just how I used to like it. I was terrified to eat it, but decided to make the decision to listen to my body.
In that first bite, it was like every cell in my body finally cried out with happiness and hollered and hooted ‘THANK YOU!’
And so my healing journey began.
I included eggs into my diet, which helped with the whole feeling satisfied after a meal thing. And I started to go to a naturopath to address my period and acne problems. But I was still a ball of stress. I started to relieve it with my newfound love for rock climbing.
My friend was also experiencing similar symptoms, as she was having an autoimmune reaction to everything she ate, but was eating primarily paleo. It was interesting to hear her perspective, especially on the subject of bone broth and how it can heal your gut inflammation.
My stomach was a disaster zone. I was bloated constantly as I ate primarily raw food and grains. I was so adamant about my vegan label that I had lost my curiosity and growth in my health journey.
I was a complete mental and physical mess.
But what about spiritually?
Well through these times of isolation, my parent’s separation and internal pressure I placed on myself to keep getting 90s, God knew what He was doing. He was giving me self-help books to read, started to create a support system of friends in the health field, and gave me plans of changing my major to Kinesiology, where I fell in love with research and understanding the mechanics of the human body.
I also went to Greece and experienced deep connections with those around the world, and discovered how much I loved talking to others about my health journey. I also had to eat some feta and greek pastries while I was there (because duh, I was in Greece), and ate in community, loosening the grips on my orthorexic and binge eating ways.
God kept me stable and grounded, even when I was depressed and anxious. I remember on a really bad day as I was driving home from school, I felt a surge of anxiety run up my spine paralyzing my body and causing me to hyperventilate. I then had the thought of swerving my car into the oncoming traffic.
That’s when I knew I needed help.
Then came the era of acupuncture, journaling and yoga – my saving graces.
By this time, I had tried everything to balance my hormones (I thought) and decided to give acupuncture a try. Well it zened me right out and eased my digestive pains. I also decided to keep an open mind with introducing new foods into my restricted plan, and eliminated inflammatory foods to speed up the healing process. I stuck to my qualitarian ways and started to drink bone broth that my friend was making with organic and grass-fed beef and chicken.
Well that shit was liquid gold.
I felt like I was getting closer and closer to healing myself and finding the right diet that worked for my body. But it wasn’t until I became truly mindful through the healing art of yoga did I release the negative emotions I had towards myself and towards my father.
I remember being in a yoga class with one of my favourite teachers, and the theme of the class was forgiveness. In shavasana, she encouraged us to hold our hearts and release any resentful thoughts we had towards ourselves and to forgive anyone in our lives that had hurt us. I left that class with tears feeling lighter and loved. My parents relationship was finally resolved in my mind as my dad left during this time. My mom and I could finally live in a less harsh and angry environment that could heal us both.
I felt deeply connected to my Spirit and loved by my Father, and knew that everything would be okay.
My addictive personality of course moved on to something else … and that was yoga. My daily yoga practice forced me to become reflective and aware of my obsessive thoughts about food. So my binge eating episodes didn’t make much sense after my yoga classes, when I wasn’t even that hungry and wanted to sit and enjoy each bite.
So I started to eat less by including sustaining meat in my diet for the first time in 13 years.
I started with some wild fish, as I thought I could stomach that. I learned that I loved salmon. And then I had some grass-fed buffalo and a little chicken. But I remembered to keep limits on things, and to have small portions of nuts, of seeds, and meat. I also made a habit of drinking tea after my meals, to signal to my body and mind that I was done eating and could move on with my day.
Then I went to Hawaii for my yoga internship and that solidified my healing process. The travel bug again came to the rescue in my pursuit of health and happiness.
This second opportunity in my life to live in community and let go of my perfectionistic ways allowed me to be human. I felt so alive and liberated to eat in community where I could slow down, have a calm and relaxed stomach, and engage in deep and meaningful conversation.
I hung out with people who ate everything and exposed me to new foods and ethnic cuisines, new adventures and new ideas and opinions. I was challenged in my faith, challenged in my diet, challenged in my flexibility and yoga knowledge, and was opened to a new and beautiful world. Did I mention my period had returned and was consistent during this time? No coincidence there.
When I came home, I became depressed for a little while as I left my tropical paradise. And that’s when I binged once more and knew it felt wrong. I knew my behaviour was due to my feelings of wanting to live in the past and caused me to revert to my old habits. I knew I had come this far in the healing journey and focused on what my beautiful future would hold and made the decision to stop. But how did I stop binge eating?
I made the decision to stop and be aware of my actions following that decision. And I wasn’t scared if I slipped up … I would just try again.
Be kind to yourself and intentional in the process.
My research also went along with my health journey, as I discovered Jordan Younger‘s journey with orthorexia and did a project on #orthorexia on instagram not only to better understand others’ battles with the eating disorder, but my own. It also isn’t a coincidence that my passion for yoga is now translated into my thesis on #yoga.
I came to the realization that this thing I did, this eating too much, wasn’t normal and it was confirmed in my brain in my abnormal psychology class when we were talking about the diagnostic criteria for binge eating disorder. How hard I had tried to become this label of vegan and healthy person to let go of it all … to now come back to a new label. But as I left class with tears of understanding, it was only fitting to be able to say it out loud and now to write it out for you to read.
I had orthorexia and binge eating disorder and I am a better person because of it.
So how am I doing now you ask?
Well … I’m still over labels but will stick to my qualitarian ways because I do love to eat a healthful diet. I do eat primarily grain free with intermittent fasting and some chicken and fish with bone broth to supplement my plant-based diet because that’s what my body needs right now. And I feel my best when I eat like this. But I won’t be scared or anxious to go out with friends and eat something outside of my criteria. Not only do I listen to my BODY … I also listen to my MIND.
I have learned health is so much more than physical health … and that your emotional health is just as important.
I release my negative emotions by journaling every morning and being with God in my meditation practices. I do yoga daily to keep me sane and flexible in all aspects of my life. I realized my love for nature and being connected to Mother Nature has helped me in the healing process and has given me a carving for living a nomadic and simple life.
I have taken some extra-curriculars off my plate so I’m not in a chronic state of stress, and have come to terms with the fact that I can’t control my life … and that my trust rests in Him alone. I am proud to call myself a calm person now that goes with the flow and lives in the present moment.
My past struggles have prepared me for my bright and beautiful future ahead.
I am so excited to continue my yoga and travelling journey as I train for my yoga teacher certification in Peru in August. I also plan on helping others with their eating disorders as a health coach by using my perfectionistic and obsessive personality as a way to relate and love those who suffer from disordered eating.
I believe God gives us suffering and let’s us struggle in order to better understand our purpose in this world.
Yes it’s hard and it sucks but in the end … we can share our stories in vulnerable and real ways to be a light and source of love to others.
So love yourself, be mindful and make a mental inventory of your physical, emotional and spiritual health. If you feel out of balance, attempt to determine the underlying cause behind it, and research some strategies that you think could work for you to release your stress and ground you.
By releasing fear, and being sensitive to your heart’s desires, you can free your soul and reach ultimate health, one moment at a time.
Peace & Love,
Jill – your vulnerable veggie villager xx
Thank you for letting me share my story with an open heart! Now, I’d love to hear from you! Have you experienced disordered eating? What strategies did you use to overcome it? Comment below!
So how’s keeping your New Year’s resolutions going? The start of February is about that time that you have made healthier choices that have stuck, or are indulging in pizza after such a rough month of lifestyle change.
Changes to your schedule or routine, changes to your career, or changes to your unhealthy habits … they all can take a lot of discipline and motivation to stay focused in order to reach your idea of success.
For me, I have always had a lot of discipline and have been a pretty productive person due to my Type A personality. But with trying to find balance in my life with friends, yoga, school, work (x3), research, harp and managing my blog, life has also taught me to schedule my time efficiently and effectively in order for me to feel my best (not have a mental breakdown at times) and to be able to show up wholeheartedly for others.
Having self-discipline begins with a choice – a choice to do better, to be better and to live in a better way. But where does such a drive come from?
It’s innate in you … and starts from having goals and dreams of contributing to a higher purpose.
Self-discipline is just a step in the process of helping you reach your greatest potential to be able to pour yourself into making the world a better place …. And I think that sounds pretty awesome.
So how do we stay disciplined to achieve success and ultimately, our purpose?
Here are my ten tips for being more productive and gaining a little more self-discipline to be successful and achieve your goals!
Get rid of distractions … aka social media scrolling.
Having a clear mind starts with being focused on the task at hand, and not being distracted by the lure of social media. It is best to create, not consume on social media and use it as a creative and fun outlet. Give yourself one time of the day that you can check your feeds, for approximately 5-10 minutes then move on to your next task.
Reward yourself … after you are productive.
This adheres to the principles of operant conditioning, and is an effective way to get work done that maybe you are procrastinating on. Homework assignments, calling the insurance company, doing your taxes … tell yourself that after that project, that phone call, and crunching those numbers, you can reward yourself after a productive day with some self-care like getting a massage, writing in your journal, going outside for a walk, or taking a warm bath.
Balance out your day.
Being productive can also mean feeling that you were successful in working on different areas of your life … what is your success criteria? If you spent time with a friend, made some calls, worked on a project, went to yoga, and found time to journal, you may feel more successful than if you only focused on one aspect of your life for the whole day. This can leave you with more energy and feeling less drained. To prevent procrastination, working on things in chunks can also be a productive strategy, as you take projects day by day rather than waiting last minute.
Do what you feel like.
Fill your day with things that light you up yet are productive and healthful. If you love yoga, go to a class, or start your day off with meditation … figure out a routine and listen to your body and mind for what you should do next. If you have a to-do list, you don’t always have to go in order! You are in control of your day … make the most of it.
Don’t stress or worry … it will all get done eventually.
Take one step at a time and enjoy each day …. And if you are worried about studying for an exam, or getting a project done in time … just do what you can each day. Spend chunks of productive time focused on your task, then take a break and know that it is better to produce your best work rather than spending hours to produce mediocre work. There is no need to worry … be patient with the process and enjoy where you are now.
To do lists are a must.
Sometimes, in your head, everything can be a mess, and all you need is a pen and paper (or notes on your phone or computer, sticky notes on my mac are my fav … and colourful!) to help you organize your thoughts. To do lists help you to prepare for deadlines, upcoming exams and events, and help you to plan each day in order to be successful. An agenda is also my go-to in order to stay productive and organized with deadlines and dates.
Repetition sucks … but it works.
Consistency is key to mastering your art and developing a routine. Taking 20 minutes a day to do something everyday, can add up fast! They say it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert … a little discipline everyday can get you to achieve your goals … especially if you are repeating skills like learning a musical instrument or learning a language. The more repetition, the faster you will learn and the closer to a master you will be!
Mindfulness helps … a lot.
Being mindful and aware of your surroundings, how you are feeling and your thoughts can help give you clarity on how you should be spending your day. You can enter into a flow state when you are present, and being productive becomes pretty effortless when you are doing something you love and are fully immersed in it.
Slow and steady wins the race … know your limits.
Take everything one step at a time and know when you need to stop working and play. Don’t stay up all night when you know you will suffer in the AM. Start first thing the next day, and take care of your health first. Know your limits and listen to your body, mind and spirit.
Teamwork and accountability.
If you need a little motivation to get started, have an accountability partner that can help move you forward and help you create the best daily habits for success. Social support is always helpful when meeting deadlines, bouncing off ideas, and getting questions answered.
So I challenge you to start a new project, make a routine, write down your list and start getting productive! How do you balance healthful behaviours and productivity? How are you using your self-discipline and harnessing it into your purpose for your life? Share your productive habits and tips below, I would love to hear all about it!
Happy 2018! We all know the importance of setting goals, but you are probably tried of setting goals for the New Year that you will probably keep for about 20 minutes. So here is a refreshing take on setting and actually achieving goals by manifesting the right opportunities in your life.
I’m proud to say that I did accomplish most of my goals for last year; however, some are always an ongoing process. I was intentional about setting SMART goals that were consistent with my 2017 timeline and the new opportunities in my life!
Recently for 2018, I have been actively searching for a yoga teacher training that not only fit my own criteria, but that was abroad and that I could do a work exchange. I did my research and applied online for many different opportunities and jobs in order to keep my options open and also to have a plan post-graduation.
I was so excited when I found The Kula Collective as their values and passion aligned with mine and they had many different teacher trainings throughout the world that I could work in exchange for. I applied to work as a website manager and sent in my resume and continued to pray about my future year. In the meantime, I also applied for many wilderness therapy jobs but felt a little uneasy by the beginning of December, as I still didn’t know what my future would hold.
I was in yoga class one day and created an intention of surrendering to God and letting Him decide my next steps for my yoga teacher training, as I was exploring other local options. I got home that night and found an email in my mailbox. It was the intern manager from Kula! He said he was reading my resume and was so excited that I went to Hawaiian Sanctuary and did a yoga internship there … as he had also been there and loved his experience! I felt such peace and knew that this was the answer from God that I was searching for.
Even though I won’t be leaving until August and wanted to leave earlier, I believe I need to be patient and prepare myself for my journey ahead. I plan on continuing to travel as I graduate and after my training for 2018. I want to teach and travel for a while to learn from other cultures and meet those in other like-minded communities.
My other quick story about manifesting is achieving my goal of getting my mom’s poetry book published. I typed up a book for her birthday of all her poems, and I knew that it was good enough to get published. So we called a local bookstore that publishes, and they directed us to another publisher that specifically does poetry books. I emailed them and they told us to send them a sample of her poems.
I sent them the sample and within 3-4 days, they said they loved her work and will get back to us in the New Year. The power of being vulnerable and sharing your soul with others can get you places.
I feel I have had such a deep connection to God and His plans for my life and have learned a few things about asking, seeking, knocking …. the door will be WIDE open if you choose to enter!
So, with all this excitement for the New Year and learning how to set your goals using a SMART format, here are my FIVE tips for manifesting your reality:
Make your list of goals then pray about it. Ask the universe if these goals are in alignment with your passion, your purpose, your skills, your ambitions, and how you can best serve the world. If you don’t know your goals, pray about it and listen in stillness. Spend time listening to your soul and what is on your heart.
If you aren’t happy, what changes and opportunities do you want to see?
How do you want to grow and stretch yourself?
Now that you know what is on your heart, do your research. Opportunities aren’t handed to you … you have to work for it. I researched for months looking for the right opportunities that aligned with my values and my vision. Take the time to figure out what your next steps are to making your dreams a reality.
If it’s travelling, research different places, where you can stay, or what work exchanges are available in the area.
If it’s changing your career, what schooling or certifications do you need to be one of the best in your new field? Who can you learn from that has experience in the field?
And if it’s healing from a divorce or chronic illness, who can you reach out for help in order to move forward and change your old habits and ways of thinking?
3. Be patient.
Everything will happen, not in your timing but in God’s timing. I wanted to leave sooner, but I know that God will give me the time I need to prepare myself for travelling through working, taking time to be creative and work on new projects, learning new skills like Spanish in order to communicate while abroad, and allowing me to connect with those I love here before I leave.
Everything is a process. Be patient with healing, with growing, and with new opportunities coming your way
Trust in all that the universe has to offer and stay connected daily. Trust in the journey and all that is awaiting you, and don’t be afraid. Have no fear and know that God has got this. When you know that all the decision-making and plans aren’t on your shoulders, you feel a sense of peace and joy. Be confident and do you.
5. Send out positive vibes.
Have a positive and opened attitude to new opportunities and those around you. A little good Karma can’t hurt anyone. Love on others and you will find love comes back to you! Also, when you are confident in yourself and your skills and abilities, others will recognize that and give you the opportunities you need to thrive.
So I challenge you to look within and set goals that challenge you, grow you, and that are also aligned with the universe and its timing. Comment below with your list of goals to hold yourself accountable and to have support along the way! Also, share your manifestation experience … I love to hear God working in others’ lives!
It makes me sad to think that we have been brainwashed to believe that there is only one idea of beauty. We approve of that symmetrical and flawless face plastered with makeup: foundation to cover any imperfections, highlighter for the cheeks, rainbows of eye shadow to emphasize those plump eyelashes and some gloss for shiny luscious lips.
Only to be accompanied by hair that has been bleached, fried, and styled to keep up with the latest hair trends. And let’s not forget that slender yet fit body, with toned arms and legs and a perfect 0.7 waist to hip ratio.
And that’s just for women.
But is this really the definition of beauty?
And what about those ‘imperfections’ – acne, wrinkles, dark spots, light spots, rashes … why should we be embarrassed? Why do we need to cover them up in order to be acceptable, or even, normal?
I want to challenge the status quo.
I want to redefine what beauty means.
So here’s how to DEFINE BEAUTY …
Beauty is being unique.
Beauty is being yourself.
Beauty is not being defined by a number.
Beauty is being in your rawest and purest form.
Beauty is being authentic and real.
Beauty is being comfortable with yourself.
Beauty is being confident in all that you are.
Beauty is in your smile.
Beauty is in your eyes.
Beauty is in your curves.
Beauty is in your muscles.
Beauty is in your chaotic mind.
Beauty is in your words.
Beauty is in your actions.
Beauty is from within. We should embrace all the beautiful qualities about ourselves – our personalities, our passions, and our purpose.
Beauty comes in all shapes, colours and sizes. There is something beautiful in being your raw self. It is about showing others you, not the mask you put on to go out into the world. Present yourself just as you are.
Beauty is letting your light shine.
Beauty is being fearless in exposing all your hopes and dreams to the world, and not worrying about what others think about your lifestyle, your hairstyle or living freestyle.
So let beauty be reflected in your interactions with the world.
The most beautiful people are the ones that create beauty around them, simply from their presence, their thoughtful actions, their kind words, and their gratitude towards others.
So don’t let different definitions of beauty touch your self-esteem.
Respect yourself and all your ‘imperfections’.
Because each of us are unique, and built in specific ways to fulfill our different purposes, our different passions, our different roles in this world.
And that alone is … beautiful.
So yes, you are beautiful.
Even with that scar.
Even with those curves.
Even with that ‘big’ nose.
This is my best beauty advice.
Let this be an affirmation to remind your self:
My body is beautiful.
My mind is beautiful.
My soul is beautiful.
Peace & Love,
Jill – your beautiful veggie villager xx
Continue your self-love journey by checking out my article about how to free yourself from expectations! Subscribe to be a part of the village for the latest blog posts and check out my instagram for daily photos and videos at @theveggievillager!
P.s. here’s a slam poem for a little more inspiration that redefines what beauty means entitled ‘Pretty’.
Ever thought about attending a yoga class but the idea of trying to get your head to your knee seemed too overwhelming and scary? Especially in front of a bunch of yogis who can stand on their heads?
I know because I’ve been there. But I hope I can convince you that yoga is so much more than trying to relax, hold a pose with screaming legs and burning arms, and attempting to not hold your breath all at the same time.
So …. What is yoga?
Yoga means union, a focus on the interconnectedness of your mind, body and spirit to improve aspects of health. Yoga is more than just poses, which is the most basic form. It is called asana, and is just one limb of the eight limbs or components of yoga. Yoga consists of ethical principles for living a purposeful life, while acknowledging the health, mindfulness, wellbeing and spiritual aspects of oneself.
Sometimes, in order to truly understand the major themes of yoga’s teachings, we need to practice asana with the intention of drawing inward and looking at what our minds and bodies are telling us about our souls.
But we aren’t given this yoga information when we attend a yoga class, and maybe we have different intentions to start practicing. For most, it’s to relieve stress, or to get some exercise in, but as you continue to practice and engage in an everyday yoga routine, you begin to focus on the spiritual side of yoga.
So …. How do you do yoga?
Yoga begins by showing up. Engaging your whole self and slowing down to the speed of our rapid and quickly changing, crazy lives. Yoga is for all bodies, shapes and sizes, and no comparisons need to be made as it is a practice of going within, not looking outward at others.
Yoga is for you, your development, and your growth so that ultimately, you can better serve others. The asana or poses, is just a vehicle for you to reach your greatest potential, and love with a humble and grateful heart.
So … Feeling inspired yet?
What if I told you about my yoga journey?
I was exposed to yoga since I was a child, as my aunt was a yoga teacher. I would watch the yoga for kids video and hang out in my cat and cow poses, while actually making the animal noises … it was a fun way for me to move and let my energy out.
I would attend hot yoga classes with her, and she would lead me through yoga flows at her house. But as I went into high school, my poor diet, sedentary lifestyle and academic focus shifted away from my health and my yoga practice.
As my mom was getting into health and fitness, I started to eat better and be conscious of movement and changing my negative mindset. I began doing home workout videos, and jumping on my rebounder (mini trampoline .. plan on doing bootcamps with it one day!).
Fast forward to university, when I decided that business was not my calling and that Kinesiology was much more in line with my values and lifestyle. I began having a regular yoga practice at different local studios, mostly vinyasa and hot yoga. I enjoyed moving, and started to see how yoga was being translated into my life and improving my health – physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
I was also always drawn to spirituality. I’ve always been a big church go-er, and served at my local church in all capacities. I felt God has always lead me down the right path, and has instilled healthy habits in me. But yoga allows me to go deeper, everyday.
As I decided to go to Hawaii for 2 months on a yoga internship this past summer, I was immersed into the true yoga world – one that isn’t commercialized and advertises yoga as exercise in one quick hour. I was doing vinyasa, yin and kundalini yoga for 1.5-5 hours a day and loving every minute of it.
I felt like I was on a yoga high … and I still feel that way coming out of classes and even doing my own yoga routine and stretches back at home.
Now as I teach at Strong Body Fitness as a bootcamp instructor, I have access to yoga on a daily basis and have been attending hot yoga 1-2 times a week at a studio closer to home. I do my own daily flow if I can’t make a class, and always incorporate breathing techniques (pranayama) and meditation into my morning routine.
Yoga has given me clarity, healed my relationship with food, is slowly healing my hormonal and digestive health, improved my relationships with others as I am more present, engaged and sensitive in conversations and has helped me connect with God that is within me (I call it the Holy Spirit … some call it your higher Self).
So …. Feeling ready to reap the benefits of yoga but don’t know where to start?
Here are my top 10 yoga tips on how to get started on your yoga and inner journey to reaching your highest Self!
1. Get a mat.
If you are planning on taking a yoga class, the first step you can do is buy yourself a yoga mat that suits your needs and your style! There are some for as low as $20 will cool designs, and even grabbing a block and strap package for your home practice is helpful, especially if you need an extra stretch from injuries or chronic pain. I finally upgraded to a heavy-duty Jade yoga mat that is extra long for my extra long limbs and will hold up to my daily practice.
2. Get some inspiration.
See how others are moving and get inspired! Maybe check out some Instagram accounts of yoga teachers and their favourite flows and poses, and read about the eight limbs of yoga through resources like the Yoga Sutras.
3. Figure out which type of yoga works for you.
Maybe you hate being hot when you are moving, so hot yoga would probably not be the best choice for you. Listen to your body and try out some different yoga classes. Different types of hatha yoga are the most common types of yoga that we practice in North America.
When you want to be mellow and stretch it out in static poses, go for some yin yoga. If you have lots of energy and like to not hold poses for a long time, try some vinyasa power yoga. If you want to challenge your mind and engage in more repetitious breathing and meditation practices, try some kundalini yoga. And if you like routine and want to progress through set sequences, try some Ashtanga yoga.
Vinyasa yoga is my go to, usually a yoga class that holds poses and where I can push myself and hang in a headstand for a while, but I do switch it up depending on my needs of the week.
4. Do your research and shop around (local is better).
Find a studio that has a variety of different classes that you think you would enjoy, as well as one that is near to your house or work. Check class schedules weekly and fit them into your schedule (set reminders, put it on your calendar or write it in your planner!!). Make time for you and your personal growth a top priority! I love my power flow and slow burn vinyasa yoga classes at Strong Body, my vinyasa hot yoga at Moksha, and my inversion practice at my own yoga sanctuary.
5. Try different classes that involve water, sun or animals.
There are some special exceptions to traditional yoga classes that you might want to try out if you’re feeling adventurous. SUP yoga is always a fun way to challenge your balance and connect to the sea (or lake…).
When the seasons change, there are usually 108 sun salutation events that salute to the new season and connect with other yogis in your community … I went to one of these for the fall and it was so much fun!
Also, there are some classes that are by donation to animal rescue charities, and include goats, cats and dogs wandering around and chilling on your mats as you move through your downward dogs with them. This is the usual at my house … minus the goats.
6. Bring a friend or go with someone who is all Zened out.
It always helps when you know someone who is into yoga and that already goes to a yoga studio. You can hold each other accountable as well as share ideas and thoughts about classes and how yoga is influencing your lives together. Also, your friend might give you the encouragement as well as inspiration you need to get to your first class.
7. Be consistent.
To have a daily practice would be ideal, but when starting out, try to go to yoga at least 2-3 times a week to really experience the benefits – mind, body and soul! You will feel yourself becoming more mindful and slowing down and you will realize that what you learn on the mat is projecting into your daily life – but this only happens when you are committed and consistent!
8. Listen to your body (know your limits).
Don’t ever compare yourself to the yogis in the room. Focus on your breath and listen to your body as you flow through different poses. Stay in the ones that are uncomfortable, but not the ones that hurt. Know your limits but also know when to push yourself to your edge. Get adventurous and try out new poses without fear or judgment of yourself or what others will think.
9. Find a yoga instructor (mentor) that gets you.
Trying different studios and going to different yoga events in the local community can help you find a teacher that speaks to your soul and your growth. Once you find a yoga teacher that you can relate to, that understands you and knows your limits can make your yoga experience even that much better. Having a mentor can teach you new things about yourself, about the practice itself, and can create the support and guidance you need to reach your highest Self.
10. Be patient.
Being kind to your body also means that getting to more advanced yoga poses takes time, effort, focus and patience. Be patient with your progress, and know that there is a lot of hard work on all accounts – mentally, emotionally, physically and spirituality. Contemplation, reflection, listening, and letting go are all parts of the journey. Trust in the development of your yoga spirit.
Please comment below about how you have used these tips to start your yoga practice! I would love to hear about your yoga journey and how you incorporate the eight limbs of yoga into your daily life!
So I encourage you to get your Zen on in order to improve your health and your interactions with yourself, others and the world off the mat.
For my last week of summer, I decided to do something a little out of my comfort zone. I had the amazing opportunity of portaging in Algonquin Provincial Park for nine days AND get a university credit for it! I wanted to share about my camping trip in the woods and how you can apply what I learned to your own life!
As a child, I wasn’t much of an outdoorsy person and grew up staying in hotels (I know … shocker!) The most camping I ever did was on an air mattress in a tent, with a kitchen and shower close nearby.
However, I have evolved into a nature and dirt enthusiast and felt that the challenge of completing a camping gear checklist, learning to paddle and portage a canoe and cook my meals over a fire would be fun and exciting! I went with 33 other students and leaders with a full Duluth (a huge backpack that I could fit in!) and an open mind.
The first couple of days were spent solidifying our paddling strokes, compass skills [with our Algonquin park map!], our basic knowledge of how to set up camp, including our tents, tarp and camping food hang (to keep our goodies away from the bears!) and getting comfortable sleeping under the stars and adjusting to the circadian rhythm of the earth.
We began on Crotch Lake (someone with a dirty mind came up with that name … ) then portaged (hiking with a canoe on your head or shoulders) to Booth Lake and Shirley Lake for the remainder of the trip, scouting out camping spots along the way.
We stayed there a few nights and spent most of our time with our core groups as well as went on a day trip to another lake nearby (I went to Robin Lake, which was quite the portage – basically a vertical hike up a mountain in the mud … and mud filled with leeches)! That’s when we were immersed into the Algonquin lifestyle and applied the skills we learned [like how to properly remove leeches] … crash canoeing course 101.
We also had a four-hour solo (chilling in the woods, doing some yoga and writing!) and shared our insights during the council for all beings. The council was meant for us to share the perspective of something living around us. I was in awe of the pine trees surrounding me during my time alone, and wrote a poem from its perspective.
One of our last days, we spent the afternoon constructing our creative projects that showcased our connection to nature and our experience during the trip. I made a wind chime out of calm shells that were all over our campsites, twine, sticks (plenty to choose from) and pinecones [all Algonquin symbols!]!
It represented to me all that I am learning to do this next year – to go with the flow (the wind) and let go of control about my future plans, leaving them up to God because I know His plans are SO much better than I could ever hope for!
We spent lots of time together laughing, swimming and dancing! I also spent a lot of time reflecting in nature and wanted to share my ‘camping tips’ and how they can apply to YOUR life … so HERE it is:
I absolutely loved living in community as we shared meals, tents, cooking responsibilities, equipment, stories and laughs! Everything is better together (even if you are an introvert and need space from time to time … I get it) and experiencing Algonquin together made the trip so much more enjoyable and exciting! So spend a little extra time this week with the people that lift you up and bring a smile to your face!
Learning how to start a fire was such a rewarding experience. It was so heart warming to be able to cook our meals and s’mores over the fire while we shared life experiences and passed the talking stick to express our feelings about the trip and the day we all had. Campfires are the perfect way to get deep with the perfect ambience! If you need to have a crucial conversation with someone … Maybe it’s best to have it around a campfire.
Without a radio, TV, or a phone, we were very present and learned to truly listen to our surroundings. I did love to sit still and listen to nature at its best – the waves by the beach, the wind in the trees, and the flapping of bird wings and the loon calls.
Although, we did still miss our music at times, and would make up for it by singing our camp songs while paddling and sitting around the bonfire; we always remembered to engage in our sense of play and fun! So, enjoy music but still remember that nature has its own tune that we can sometimes miss if we aren’t listening.
We went back to basics and learned such a simplistic way of living. Learning basic skills like how to start a fire and paddle properly gave me an appreciation for our interaction with nature and how priorities can change so fast. Everything was a process in the woods, but was so rewarding when that meal was finally made, the lake water was filtered, when we finally felt clean and when we reached the end of the lake to our next destination.
Remember to be grateful for a stove that lights itself, clean water to drink, a hot shower, and a car as a source of transportation. We are sometimes so caught up with relationship, work and school problems … all issues that somehow seemed so much less important in the woods with survival as our main priority.
No clocks, no mirrors, no worries.
My favourite part about our trip was that we did not have a sense of time (only the leaders), allowing us to truly get in tune with the circadian rhythm of the earth, as well as our bodies as we listened and ate when we were truly hungry. We didn’t worry about getting somewhere at a specific time, and could pace ourselves and enjoy each moment in the journey.
We also had no mirrors, which was a refreshing change. We went by how we felt, not by how we looked. We felt less self-conscious so we could be our authentic, real selves with each other, no masks [or makeup] allowed.
Just keep paddling.
Sometimes, we didn’t feel like paddling, or hiking to the end of the portage. We learned to persevere through the rain and sore muscles and finish strong. Remember that this too shall pass … and that once you reach your goal you feel so satisfied and accomplished! And if there isn’t a specific goal in mind, remember that things can get better and that pain and suffering can make you stronger and teach you a lesson along the way. There is always a sun after the storm.
So I challenge you to take some time in nature and get back to basics … find the inner child in you and spend some time just playing! Revel in the beauty that is all around us … be still and look up. I am always in awe of the moon and the stars… Especially in a canoe and on a clear night [The Milky Way!]
I encourage you to be your vulnerable and authentic self, because those who truly accept you are those that will help and support you to be your best self! Be kind to yourself and enjoy the journey!
Remember … Nature does not rush … yet everything is accomplished.